Millionaires Club yet Miserable.

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At the top of this year, I was inducted to a “Millionaires Club” with a network marketing company that I was a part of for 6 years. You would think this would have brought joy but inside I was extremely unhappy. I felt overwhelmed by a company and an industry that required me to spend more time focusing on building them than building the things brewing inside me. I walked away in June by faith from earning some of the largest checks of my life to focus on more of Godly purpose. There were things that were keeping me up at night, and things I began to dream about that I knew God wanted me to focus on. I would cry out to God literally and pray for an out, and He gave me one. Because I understand the power of having at least one stream of residual income to use as a vehicle to invest, I started a journey with a new company that catered more to my everyday life. Its a shopping club that gives discounts on eco friendly, everyday products. I had peace going in this direction because it would not require me to sell and worked as more of a referral program. Nonetheless, working it would not come at the expense of putting aside what God was ultimately calling me to do in this season. While all of this was happening my friends and I decided that it was best to close down our boutique, Luxe for Brunch to focus more on what God was calling each of us to do. I would have loved for my story to read, “…and because of this she lived happily ever after and every door was opened and she made more money than she ever made before.” But then I would be lying, catering to the highlight reels that so many people show on social media. Honestly, its been challenging yet rewarding.

What I’ve learned this past year is that I can have the largest bank account and still be miserable inside when I’m not doing all of what I’m called to do. Author of “Called to Create” Jordan Raynor said it best,

“For those called to create, this means that while we should certainly hustle, we must first trust in God who, throughout history, has been faithful to provide for his people. If we trust in God’s character and steward the talents he has given us well, we can rest knowing that the results are in his hands, that he is in control and is working everything for our good.”

 Teaching on Spiritual Warfare at Zion Church, Landover, MD

Teaching on Spiritual Warfare at Zion Church, Landover, MD

I made a vow that in 2019, I would do all of the things that brought me the most joy and give God the most glory. The most joy I experienced this year was when I led a missions team to Ghana alongside my husband, when I’ve spoken at various conferences and events, and through launching my baby “SoulCircles” which teaches women how to study the Bible all over the globe. These things may have not earned me the big checks that I had been used too but when I think of the “highlights” and best moments of my year these come first. I’ve also witnessed God provide for our family in ways that I can only give Him the credit and glory for. We have not missed any meals, and our needs are met. Yes we had to cut back on some things as a family. But as we cut back we are also praying, creating, and strategizing on how the Lord would have us to use our gifts and also earn steady income. I am excited to see all of what God will do as we serve our gifts to the world.

 The Missions Team I led to Ghana in May of 2018

The Missions Team I led to Ghana in May of 2018

As I prepare to walk into 2019, there is some uncertainty yet there is great confidence in Christ. There are a few challenges, yet there is peace that surpasses my understanding. There are trials yet there is joy, laughter and love in my household.

A few things are for certain… I am called to this life but only if I”m reflecting The Creator in all that I do. As Christians we cannot look to the left or to the right but only to our Father in Heaven who has given us our gifts to glorify Him. I’ll leave you with a few more words from Jordan Raynor that speak to me in this season,

“We choose this path because Someone has called us to create. We choose this path because God gave us the passion, giftings, and opportunities to use our entrepreneurial talents to glorify him, love others, and create something that has a shot at being considered the glory of the nations. So my final charge to you and to myself is this: create in a way that our work can never be confused as a mere “job.” Create in a away that clearly conveys to ourselves and the world that we work sacrificially for someone else. We work for the One who has called us to create.”

If this spoke to you, I want your feedback! Leave a comment, share, and lets chat. God bless you all as we prepare for 2019.

 SoulCircles-NYC November 2018

SoulCircles-NYC November 2018

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Love,

Jennifer Lucy Tyler

PS- If you would like to host a SoulCircles in your state or would like to bring it to women at your church, we are quickly filling our 2019 calendar. Or if you are looking for a speaker for your women’s conference or event Click here to request a booking and receive my media kit.

Why Watching Your Reactions to Bill Cosby Being Convicted Make me Cringe?

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It was the Chi Cha Lounge in D.C. during the early 2000’s. I had just gotten over a horrible break up, I was not a Christian, I was openly bi-sexual, and I was out with my friend trying to self-medicate my pain by smoking and drinking. I met this guy. He was much older than me, owned his own business, and because I thought he was “mature,” I thought it would be ok to date him.

 

He lived about an hour out of the city, was about 15 years older than me so of course we had nothing in common. I allowed him to wine and dine me because when you don’t know Christ, that’s typically what you do to get over a break up…You go to the next person. You use people to fill a void that only God can fill.

 

The signs were there…

 

I remember when I didn’t answer his calls and he showed up to my parent’s house unannounced. I walked with him outside and a young man who was my neighbor said “hello” to me. This guy said, “Who the F&$@ is that? Are you f$#(@)@ this nigga?” I laughed nervously, letting him know to calm down and stop tripping because that was just my neighbor and we were cool. I then let him know how I had plans with my friends and I didn’t appreciate him showing up to my house unannounced. He left and I should have never saw him again….

 

But I was broken so I did.

 

I was working at Sibley Hospital in the pharmacy and taking a Medical Terminology class. My co-workers and I were in the courtyard studying for a test when I heard someone beeping a horn and yelling my name. I looked up and it was him. I don’t remember telling him where I worked, but maybe it slipped in conversation. Nonetheless, I was shocked and slightly mortified that this man decided to show up to my job unannounced. When I walked out to talk to him he said he wanted to surprise me and take me to lunch. Now to some this may have seemed sweet. But we had only met maybe a week or two prior and this was uncomfortable to me. I had not made a commitment to this man. We were not in a relationship, we were simply dating. I told him that I was “on call” and I was not able to leave for lunch but that we could see each other another time.

 

One day we were out on a date, and I remember he was constantly buying drinks. I knew that I should not have been drinking but in my mind I was grown and could handle it. I was also trying to numb the pain. The pain of being cheated on in a previous relationship, the pain of seeing my father on crack, the pain of not knowing my identity and worth…It was all just too much to bear. So I drank, smoked weed, and popped the occasional XTC pill. That night out with him, I can’t remember what I drank but all I know is that I passed out. I woke up, and saw the sign “Centerville” and knew that I was far from home.

We pulled up to what I believe was his home and he carried me into the house. By this time, I was starting to come to myself a little but was still very much out of it. He started to pull my clothes off, and I asked him to stop. He kept going, and I started crying. I felt super woozy and to this day I believe he put something in my drink. I started to push him off of me, and he held me down by force and raped me. I will spare the disgusting details of what and how he did it but it left me bleeding months later. He also gave me an STD that I thank God was curable. He drove me home as if it was a normal date and I went on with life as if I was normal. “It was my fault, how dumb could I be? I should have listened to my gut, I should not have drank, I guess I led him on, I refuse to be a victim” were all of the thoughts going through my mind. After that day, he continued to call me and I would ignore him. Every time I saw a black Jaguar car somewhere, I would get anxiety because I thought it was him. The final time he called me, I just happened to have a high school friend over the house. I told him this man was harassing me and asked could he pretend he was my boyfriend and tell him to stop calling me? He did, and it was the last time I heard from that monster.

 

Years later I dealt with shame around this moment in time that I wish I could erase. Writing about it today was hard… It even brought back what I smelled that day… I don’t know how memories can do that, but it’s weird. I came out with a book in 2011, “Dried Tears A Woman’s Guide to Overcoming,” which openly talks about everything that I have overcome with Christ except this….

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I didn’t write it down because at the time I still felt a tremendous amount of shame for not knowing better, not reporting it, not seeing the signs, and for thinking it was all my fault.

 

This week we saw America’s TV dad, and comedian Bill Cosby sentenced to 3 to 10 years of prison for the assault, drugging and raping of Andrea Constand 14 years ago. Multiple women have come forward over the years echoing similar things about Cosby. As I read the reaction from social media I cringed. It reminded me why I was scared to come forward and report the rape that happened to me.

 

Luvvie Ajayi shared perspective that sums up my heart on this, “The fact is rape culture rarely ever punishes rapists (even those who aren’t rich). Why? Because patriarchy often trumps class, and raging misogyny is at the bottom of it all. The world cares way more about the freedom of wayward penises and the pinheads they’re attached to, than the bodies and well-being of women and girls. 60 accusers. SIXTY. And some folks wanna play devil’s advocate on his trifling behalf, as if Satan said he needed a chaperone.”

 

Insecure HBO actress, Amanda Seals says, “Yes there are many white men who have not went to jail for similar crimes, and they SHOULD go to jail. It doesn’t make Cosby any less innocent it just makes the system and this world more racist.”

 

We must put an end to rape culture which is perpetuated through the misogynistic language, objectification of women’s bodies and glamorization of sexual violence. We must create safe spaces where women can be transparent and receive healing without being judged or told that its “their fault.”

 

I am grateful to have a relationship with God who has healed me from the pain over the years. He has restored my soul and healed the wounds of my past. However, if you are a woman who has experienced rape and never shared it with anyone please share it with someone you trust and also seek counseling. Women we are carriers and have the tendency to bury our pain and move on. We push our feelings aside, get on with life, get to the money and get to moving. Many of us experience abuse, pain and betrayal without ever caring for our mental health and getting therapy. Let’s erase the stigma. Its ok to get therapy sis. You aren’t crazy if you do, you are smart. As a matter of fact click this link here and find a therapist.

 

My Birthday Present

 

Taking my own advice, I decided to integrate therapy back into our budget as a form of self-care. I am an advocate for self care but I admit its time to take it a step further. I turn 37 next week and as much as I love the Lord, as much as I know Him and His power there are times life gets tough and you need to process it with someone who is a professional and not connected to you in any way….

So with that being said, its ok to get therapy years later especially if you are triggered. Its ok to report the person who raped you. Its ok, to even not be ok. Just don’t stay there sisters. Don’t dwell in that space. Draw near to Christ, draw near to the people who are a safe space, draw near to those who love and care for you.

Lastly, if you feel led pray this with me:

“Father, I need you. Help me to place my trust in you. I ask for your strength to overcome and for healing in areas that aren’t healed. John 8:36 says, who the son sets free is free indeed. Lord, I thank you for freedom from guilt, and shame. I thank you for making me whole in every area of my life. You are always good, and use everything for your glory. In Jesus Name, Amen.”

 

 

 

The Truth About Grief...

Its 2 am and I can’t sleep so I decided to write. My mind keeps going back to one year ago today, the day I got the call. My mother was frantic and told me I needed to get to her house. My heart sank, I knew something was seriously wrong and I knew it was about my dad. On the way, I called Jeff and asked him to meet me there. I then began to pray, scream, and cry out to God for His mercy. I had felt an emptiness that I had never felt before, deep down I knew he was gone. I pulled up to my parents condo, and the ambulance was outside. My brother and husband could barely look at me, my mom came downstairs and told me to come inside. I ran into the apartment and said, “let me see my daddy.” My mother simply said, “he’s gone.” What came after that was a blur. I could not see through my own tears, I could not hear through my own screams. It felt like I was having an outer body experience. “He can’t be gone!” The week prior my dad had spent the night in our new home as we celebrated my mom’s birthday. Just two days prior to that, we had spent time in church together. I remember asking my dad, “Do you want to go to brunch?” He politely declined. My dad was exhausted. He had COPD. Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease ( COPD ) is a chronic inflammatory lung disease that causes obstructed airflow from the lungs.  It was a huge blessing that he had even come out of the house to go to church. Over the years the COPD had gotten worse and my father carried oxygen. He would often be out of breath and too tired to hang out like he used too. It was difficult to witness. This used to be my rollercoaster partner in every amusement park, and he was once full of energy. In addition to that, my father battled PTSD and drug addiction most of his life. My dad was a Vietnam veteran and participated in things that caused him great pain. I truly believe that was a big contributor to his drug usage.  He did not know how to numb the pain and so he resorted to a temporary out, and that was getting high. I used to walk in total unforgiveness towards my dad. After the Lord relentlessly pursued me and saved me, He walked me through a journey of forgiveness. He helped me to see my dad in all of his brokenness and I began to have compassion for him. Besides, by God’s grace I was saved and delivered from my sins so how dare I not think he wasn’t worthy of my forgiveness? 

Colossians 3:13- …bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. (ESV)

Today I am grateful for that ability to forgive my dad. Years prior to this death, I was prompted to create memories with him. Deep down I knew his time was short and I’m grateful the Lord prepared me. I would pray and ask God, “Please just allow him to live long enough to meet a future grandchild.” He only lived long enough to find out he was having a grandchild when my brother announced it during my mom’s birthday dinner last year. Although, this prayer wasn’t answered the major prayer we prayed over my dad was answered. The Lord did not take my dad until He had saved his soul. We have no doubt now that we will see my father again. What he did in his heart the last few months of his life is incredible. My father was loving, compassionate and desired to be in church learning about God. I remember in the last few months of my dad’s life seeing him come up at our church for prayer. I always wondered what he prayed, but it brought me comfort that the Lord was drawing him to Himself. As a matter of fact that last movie he watched was “The Case for Christ” by Lee Strobel. He insisted that my brother and wife watch it with him. So although my dad will never meet a grandchild on this side of heaven, I know for sure we will all be reunited one day.

Fast forward to today. One year after our lives changed and my father transitioned. Cue Marvin Sapp’s, “Never Would have Made it!” Because its only God that has gotten us through. This was by far the greatest heartache I have ever experienced and I can’t believe I’m surviving it. There are a few things I have learned about grief this past year and I want to share my truth. Some of these you may or may not agree with, but again this is MY truth.  I pray it helps someone grieving a death of a loved one in their lives.

1.    Time does not heal all wounds. God does. 

Psalm 34:18- The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
    and saves the crushed in spirit.

I don’t know where I would be without my faith in God and the anticipation of eternity. This anticipation of eternity with Jesus has given me great comfort, because I know I will see my dad again. He was a believer and was no longer scared of death because he knew where he was going. Eternity is forever, and the spirit realm is more real than what we experience today within our natural bodies.  After my father passed, I became obsessed with studying heaven. It brought me comfort because it allowed me to wonder what my father maybe experiencing or seeing right now. I look forward to the day when we meet again as brothers and sisters in Christ worshipping at the throne. He’s probably so popular already in heaven. LOL My dad was such an extrovert and a people person.

2.    You can’t rush grief. Everyone’s timeline is different for how they process things. There are 7 stages of grief. Go through them, and get professional counseling if there are times where you can’t seem to shake it. Don’t allow grief to take you to a dangerous place of depression. It’s ok, and as a matter of fact recommended that you seek counseling after such a devastating change in your life.

3.   Unless you lost a parent or a child you don’t know how that person feels. Grief is an emotion many have experienced, but its levels to it. There is nothing compared to the loss of an immediate family member. It affects you and changes you in a way that you can’t relate too unless you have experienced it. So instead of making the statement, “I know how you feel because you once lost your pet fish” just show up and be there.”

4.   Celebrate their lives with loved ones. Today I plan on being with my family and celebrating the life of my dad. I don’t plan on sitting at home and crying the day away. I am actually surprised at how much peace I have in this moment. Also to make the holidays or the anniversary of his passing easier, we celebrate by doing something he loved or eating one of his favorite foods. Maybe today we will go and have some Key Lime Pie, and listen to some of his favorite songs. We will reminisce and laugh and cry if we need too. Although, we usually end up doing more laughing because we focus on the funny memories we all have.

 My final Father's Day

My final Father's Day

 My dad's last birthday. <3

My dad's last birthday. <3

 80's baby. Forever a Daddy's Girl

80's baby. Forever a Daddy's Girl

 This was the very last day I ever saw my dad. Jeff was helping him from the car into our church

This was the very last day I ever saw my dad. Jeff was helping him from the car into our church

Self Care Series-Part 1 "The Three S's"

This weekend I had the honor of teaching on one of my favorite topics: Self-Care. Because let’s face it ladies, we have such a hard time taking care of ourselves.

Let’s talk about some of the roles we have as women. We are wives, daughters, mom’s, minister’s, entrepreneurs, students, and career women. We often are also doctor’s (making sure everyone in the household is taken care of when sick), lawyers (handling disputes between children), drivers (chauffeuring kids to various activities), school teachers (checking and going through homework), maid service (cleaning up after everyone), gourmet chef’s (planning and cooking meals for the household), in some cases we are “handy-women” (fixing items and doing odd jobs around the house), stylists (making sure our husbands and children’s clothing are clean, up to par and stylish), counselors and psychologists (hearing out the problems of the household), and the list goes on…For us to do all of these things, and to still struggle with guilt when it comes to taking care of ourselves is a lie planted in our minds from the enemy.

 

I often use the phrase, self-care is soul-care. It has been said that our soul is made up of three parts.  Now I am not sure how true this is, but these three parts are supposedly our mind, our will, and our emotions.  When you are not taking care of yourself what happens? We can be short with our children and spouses, or impatient with those around us. We end up frustrated, overly emotional, and lacking joy or peace. It seems that when we are not surrendered to God these three parts (mind, will, and emotions) are most affected. I haven’t found exact theological backing yet to solidify this about these thoughts about soul, but when I do I will be sure to let you guys know. Nonetheless, we cannot talk about self-care without talking about the Sabbath.

Shabbat- is the Hebrew word for Sabbath and it means to come to an end, to cease, to stop, to pause.

Genesis 2:2  (ESV) And on the seventh day God finished his work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work that he had done.

Even God rested! And let me submit He didn’t rest because He needed too.  He neither sleeps nor slumbers (Ps 121:4). I believe He rested because He wanted to teach us something. He wanted to teach us the principal of the Sabbath and the importance of rest.The bible talks about the importance of entering into His rest again in Hebrews 4. We will not enter into God’s eternal rest if we don’t trust His promises. Many of us are stressed out and cannot rest because we simply don’t trust Him and we also struggle with pride. Let me be the first to admit that this is often my struggle. As an entrepreneur this is such a challenge.  I realize that there is no check coming my way unless I get up and produce. This is both liberating and terrifying at the same time. It is our human sin nature to believe that everything is in our own hands and under our own control. Yet time and time again, I have learned that I am not in total control. Life is so much easier when we truly realize this point and relinquish control to the One who cares for us. This doesn’t mean we sit on our butts and do nothing. This simply means that no matter what it looks like, “we gon be alright!” We have a Father who is our ultimate provider, He brings the opportunities, He opens the doors, and He also closes what needs to be closed because He sees what’s ahead and knows best. It’s refreshing to be able to rest in that truth.

What Does Self Care Look Like?

There are times we are able to take a nice vacation, have a spa day, or take ourselves shopping. But what if we aren’t able to do any of those things? It becomes important then that we establish a daily routine of Self Care.  I have established a routine of daily Self-Care using my three S’s:

·      Solitude

·      Soaking

·      Scripture.

Solitude- Take time to simply be alone.  Don’t take your phone or any other electronics with you. Focus on your breathing by taking deep breaths. Clear your mind by focusing on a particular scripture.

Soaking- Turn on worship music and just soak in His presence. Reflect on the words of the song and just sit in His presence.

Scripture- Take out your Bible and mediate on scripture. The Hebrew word of meditate is: Hagah. It simply means to mutter. Take time to mutter the scripture to yourself over and over again. This helps to get these words into your mind and heart.

When you begin to take the time to do this daily, or even a few times a week you will begin to see a shift in how your days are going. You best take care of yourself by going to the One who takes care of you!

Remember we cannot be all who God called us to be without taking care of ourselves.

Love you guys,

 

 

Jennifer Lucy Tyler

Do Good, Feel Good, Look Good

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My Microblading Experience!

My Microblading Experience!

So yes, I decided to get microblading to help my struggle brows this year and I wanted to share my experience with you guys. Yes they were struggle brows. After years of going to the wrong people to get my brows done, my brows inevitably suffered and never seemed to grow back correctly. I always felt like I had to fill in my brows just for my face to have character and feel normal.  

10 Things Every 30 Something Should Know.

10 Things Every 30 Something Should Know.

I cannot believe in October I will be 37 years old. It seems surreal even typing those words but it’s true. Time flies but I am truly loving my 30’s. I have traveled the world, gotten married to the love of my life, purchased our second home, and much more. My 30’s also have not come without its own set of losses and disappointments.  I have and continue to learn a ton and I just wanted to share some of these things with you as you navigate this stage of your life with me. We are in this together.

Mother’s Day (A Special Blog for Those Waiting to Conceive, And the People In Their Lives)

I am truly blessed to have an amazing mother, mother in love and grandmother who are still alive and well. I absolutely love celebrating them on this day and just in life period. These are amazing women who I am blessed and honored to learn from and be a part of their legacy.

But let me be honest with you. As I approach 35 years of age, and if I am not careful in guarding my heart, Mother’s day can bring thoughts of anxiety or even sadness. Many of you know my husband’s and I desire to have children because I have had no problem sharing it. 3 years ago we had a miscarriage. I decided to openly share it because SO many women go through this and need to know they are not alone. With everything that I share it is my desire to inspire others to know that they can overcome with Christ.

Since that time, my husband and I have had spurts of focusing on trying to get pregnant, only for me to be disappointed when I come on my cycle yet once again! Then you have moments where you say, forget all of the Ovulation tracker apps! I’m just going to “trust the Lord” and let it happen naturally. Time passes, we celebrate another new year, another birthday passes, more babies are born all around you, you start to see scattered gray hairs, you receive yet ANOTHER inbox or text message of someone saying they dreamed about your baby or babies, or even worst asks are you pregnant when in fact you are just bloated that particular day (which is the worst by the way!).

Please know that I’m sharing my heart not for your sympathy but just to bring some understanding to what SO many women and myself go through. And if you have children, this is not to make you feel guilty or awkward about your blessing! They are such a precious gift from the Lord!! All I’m saying is exercise tact and be more sensitive with those that you know are truly waiting for God to open their womb. Just believe God with them if you know this is their hearts desire. J No need to make assumptions, and email them your adoption agency or fertility doctors unless they ask you. No need to text them your old wives tales remedies if you don’t have that relationship with them to do so. Everyone’s situation is different and unless you know the person and they have shared personal information with you don’t make any assumptions. You will find out when they are pregnant when they decide to announce it publicly.

For those women who are waiting to conceive this is for you. I must tell you that if you desire a child it is important to guard your heart and fill it with the promises of God within His Word. These are a few scriptures that I meditate on regularly: 

  • Your children will be like the vigorous young olive trees as they sit around your table. That is the Lord’s blessing for those who fear him.-Psalm 128:4- (this is my favorite because its produces such a beautiful visual. Its important to never stop envisioning your blessing.)
  • For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right. –Psalm 84:11
  • Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at the city gates. –Psalm 127:3-5
  • Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.– Romans 12:12
  • He gives the childless woman a family, making her a happy mother. Praise the LORD!– Psalm 113:9
  • Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.– Philippians 4:6
  • May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy,– Colossians 1:11
  • By faith Sarah herself also received strength to conceive seed, and she bore a child when she was past the age, because she judged Him faithful who had promised.– Hebrews 11:11
  • Isaac pleaded with the LORD on behalf of his wife, because she was unable to have children. The LORD answered Isaac’s prayer, and Rebekah became pregnant with twins.– Genesis 25:21
  • I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him.– 1 Samuel 1:27

For anyone who is waiting patiently or sometimes not so patiently to become a mother I will be praying for you this weekend! Learn to celebrate the moms around you and rejoice! Don’t compare situations or timing. I truly believe and have experienced in my life that God’s timing is the BEST timing! He knows what’s ahead and when that child should be brought into the world. I often think of the story of Hannah who prayed to have a child. She gave birth to Samuel whom she dedicated to the Lord. Samuel became a great prophet who proclaimed the word of the Lord. Prophets were born for an appointed time, to proclaim God’ word. It is also an appointed time for your child to be born, “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.” (Jeremiah 1:5).

I find comfort in knowing that God knows the seed that will come from Jeff and I before they arrive in my womb. I also take comfort in knowing that God knows our child’s purpose and what time period they need to be born within, in order to fulfill that God ordained purpose. My prayer for you future mothers who are waiting for that time is that you will not become distracted, sad or anxious. Press through the emotions. I know that part is tough because I don’t get it right every time. Go into worship and celebration mode of all the moms around you! Ask God to give you a heart to celebrate with others, and to increase your patience. Love on ALL of the children around you and be a blessing to their lives! God hasn’t forgotten about us! Don’t stop believing His word and what God promised you! I won’t. J

 

“Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy.” Psalm 126:5

 

 (Me with my Mom and Grandma)

(Me with my Mom and Grandma)

 (Me and My Mom who is my very best friend and number one prayer warrior)

(Me and My Mom who is my very best friend and number one prayer warrior)

 (I still believe the prayers of these beautiful Indian children from Asha House)

(I still believe the prayers of these beautiful Indian children from Asha House)

 (We are blessed to love on children all over the world, and take comfort in our OWN are coming one day!)

(We are blessed to love on children all over the world, and take comfort in our OWN are coming one day!)

Birthing A God-Sized Vision!

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So I haven’t given birth to a child yet, but as I’m preparing to give birth to vision I realize that there are so many similarities.

Nesting

In pregnancy, the urge to clean and organize is known as nesting. Nesting during pregnancy is the overwhelming desire to get your home ready for your new baby. The nesting instinct is strongest in the later weeks coming up on delivery.

I believe that vision birthing requires a nesting season. When you are preparing for a launch of a dream or a vision, you will find yourself tying up lots of loose ends. My days have been spent combing over our website, researching, ordering marketing items, meeting with assistants, accountants and event planners, etc. The nesting season can be fun but if you aren’t careful you can be overwhelmed. (I’m preaching to myself here.) Yet, even within the nesting season REST is so important. Without rest, the birthing process can be difficult. I have had to remind myself to rely on His strength more than my one. This is not always easy but necessary during the nesting stage.

 

1 Peter 5:7 (NLT)- 7 Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

 

Labor and Delivery

When its time to give birth to a baby, contractions will begin. This process can be painful for some, and has been painless for others. Nonetheless, just as you may have pain birthing a child, you may also experience painful things as you birth a vision. Have you ever been so close to birthing what God has inside of you and it seems like all of hell breaks loose in your life? Those painful moments may come in the form of family, health, financial or friendship challenges. The enemy’s role is to steal, kill and destroy. I believe that he looks to destroy God given visions and will try to use people or other avenues to simply destroy the vision God has birthed on the inside of you. This is when you have to PUSH like never before. No matter how painful it becomes, there is a vision inside of you that the world needs to see.

 John 16:33 (NLT)- I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

Because we are in a fallen world, we will experience trials. But we can be joyful knowing that in Christ we overcome. So if you are overwhelmed and experiencing painful things as you birth your vision, step back and get into God’s presence. Go into prayer, worship and rest. Allow His presence to comfort and strengthen you. Remind yourself that you can do this with His help! He won’t allow a vision that He’s birthed on the inside of you fail!

Psalm 121 (NLT)

1 I look up to the mountains—
does my help come from there?
2 My help comes from the Lord,
who made heaven and earth!

3 He will not let you stumble;
the one who watches over you will not slumber.
4 Indeed, he who watches over Israel
never slumbers or sleeps.

5 The Lord himself watches over you!
The Lord stands beside you as your protective shade.
6 The sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon at night.

7 The Lord keeps you from all harm
and watches over your life.
8 The Lord keeps watch over you as you come and go,
both now and forever.

 

Doula or Midwife, Who is in Your Corner?

In pregnancy some women choose to hire a doula or a midwife. A midwife is a health care provider while a doula is more of a childbirth coach. When you are giving birth to a God given vision it is important to make sure you have the right person(s) in your corner. Every visionary needs a coach, and even friends that will push you to fulfill that purpose. Visionaries often pour out so much but you also have to make sure that you are being poured back into. Take some time to evaluate the people in your life as you are birthing a God sized vision. Are they encouraging? Prayerful? Helpful? Or do you feel drained or discouraged after sharing with them? If so, its time to look for new midwives!! When you have a baby in the natural, you would not just let anyone in the room beside you, as you are about to give birth. So it should be in the natural. Everyone will not be able to walk alongside you as you give birth to this vision. Ask the Lord to help you identify your midwives who are able to coach and support you through the birthing process. These individuals are so critical because they literally are the ones who have taken on the role of not allowing you to fail. They are in your ear, telling you to push even when you feel weary or doubtful. They remind you of the beautiful promise of God that is on the other side of birthing this vision!

 

The Promise

The vision is birthed and now we rejoice! But just as it is when you give birth to a child, the work really begins. Now is the time to cultivate, nurture and serve the vision that God has allowed you to birth. Just as you would show off your beautiful baby, its time to show off the vision! Tell everyone about it as a testament to His glory! Use your vision to bring glory and honor to His name! Never forget Christ as the foundation of your vision and always rely on His strength and wisdom as the vision grows and develops. As you pour into your God-sized vision daily you will begin to see fruit that will be a part of a beautiful legacy for generations to come!

 2 Corinthians 1:19-20 (TLB)

19 Timothy and Silvanus and I have been telling you about Jesus Christ the Son of God. He isn’t one to say yes when he means no. He always does exactly what he says. 20 He carries out and fulfills all of God’s promises, no matter how many of them there are; and we have told everyone how faithful he is, giving glory to his name.

Get to Birthing!

 

Love,

Jennifer Lucy Tyler

PS- I would love to celebrate my own God-sized vision with you this month! Visit www.fmbtylaunch.eventbrite.com to get your ticket today! Or if you are not able to attend, and would like to donate to our non-profit, feel free to send a tax-deductible donation via PayPal to admin@frommyblocktoyours.org! Thank you so much for the support!

From the Four Corner’s of the Block, to the World! Next Stop: Mission Cuba!

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In 79 days I will be on the road again to Cuba to be the hands and feet of Jesus in that country. As many of you know the past year I have been training with a mentor to learn how to effectively lead missions trips and live missionally. This will be the first trip that I attend just the week following my Short Term Missions training with Adventures in Missions in Gainesville, GA. I am very excited about the work we will do in this country.

Cuba is less than 90 miles from the United States and is the the largest island in the Caribbean. It has the second largest population in the region, and before the US Embargo of 1960, was one of the most advanced and prosperous nations in Latin America. From quality education, high life expectancy, and technological advances like telephones and automobiles, life in Cuba in the 1950’s was good. Enter the Communist Revolution in 1959. Economic depression followed the Soviet Union’s collapse. The Embargo limited trade and tourism to the nation in 1960, and the combination of those three factors left Cuba stuck in the 1950’s, its once thriving economy unable to advance. Now in 2015, it’s a nation without modern technology, appliances, or automobiles newer than the 1950’s.

Adventures began officially going to Cuba in 2012, before the Embargo lifted. What we found was a nation hungry for Christ and a growing church inviting us to partner with them. Officially, Cuba is a secular nation. There is no national religion, although 59% of the population would call themselves Catholic. There is no organized faith. While it isn’t illegal to be a Christian in Cuba, churches are against the law – as are all religious buildings, no matter the faith. Old monasteries and cathedrals sit empty, their halls echoing with the memories of those who used to fill them. Christians cannot meet with others to worship; neither can they share their faith with others. They live in secret.

Our team will fly in through one of seven chartered flights from Miami to Havana, spend a day experiencing the culture and sights of the capital city, then head to the ministry location, Santi Spiritus, a 500-year-old city four hours away. Santi Spiritus is the home of a pastor of over 100 churches throughout the nation. During the week we will see the firsthand the church growth in this section of the country. Ministry varies from sports ministry, construction/farming, teaching/Bible studies, home visits, VBS, and encouraging the church. Meals are made by the women of the church, over an open fire. We will stay in government-approved hostels, debrief on a rooftop overlooking the city, and be a part of the exciting work God is doing in the growing Cuban church. For the first time in half a century, Cuba is officially open to Americans. With a growing church network, members hungry for encouragement from Christians across the world, and so many who have never heard the Gospel, this literally is a once in a lifetime opportunity.

The trip cost is $795 which includes food and lodging. This does not include the flight. It is my heart’s desire to also raise $2000 dollars to be able to sow into the ministries of the pastors we will serve in the house churches. If God puts it on your heart to give please donate through my website Jennifer Lucy Inspires or feel free to donate directly through my PayPal link.  In the notes column please designate the funds for what you would like it to cover. Please consider shopping in my Jennifer Lucy Inspires store because 100 percent of the proceeds go to missions. I am personally in the process of receiving my own 501 c3 Tax Exempt status for our missions organization. However, we do not have it at this present time. If you would like to make this a tax deductible contribution please mail to: Adventures in Missions (Missions Participant: Jennifer Tyler for Cuba) P.O. Box 742570 Atlanta, GA 30374-2570.

Thank you all so much for your heart, support and love over the years!

Love, Jennifer Lucy Tyler #theFavorProject2016

 

“Live Missionally Love Unconditionally”

PS- We are still doing #theFavorProject2016! Its not too late to join us! Those who participate will agree to journal all year the favor, answered prayers, acts of kindness, and grace that you receive and also bestow upon others this year! We did this two years ago and it was simply amazing to see our kindness to others and gratefulness go to a new level.