Self Care Series-Part 1 "The Three S's"

This weekend I had the honor of teaching on one of my favorite topics: Self-Care. Because let’s face it ladies, we have such a hard time taking care of ourselves.

Let’s talk about some of the roles we have as women. We are wives, daughters, mom’s, minister’s, entrepreneurs, students, and career women. We often are also doctor’s (making sure everyone in the household is taken care of when sick), lawyers (handling disputes between children), drivers (chauffeuring kids to various activities), school teachers (checking and going through homework), maid service (cleaning up after everyone), gourmet chef’s (planning and cooking meals for the household), in some cases we are “handy-women” (fixing items and doing odd jobs around the house), stylists (making sure our husbands and children’s clothing are clean, up to par and stylish), counselors and psychologists (hearing out the problems of the household), and the list goes on…For us to do all of these things, and to still struggle with guilt when it comes to taking care of ourselves is a lie planted in our minds from the enemy.


I often use the phrase, self-care is soul-care. It has been said that our soul is made up of three parts.  Now I am not sure how true this is, but these three parts are supposedly our mind, our will, and our emotions.  When you are not taking care of yourself what happens? We can be short with our children and spouses, or impatient with those around us. We end up frustrated, overly emotional, and lacking joy or peace. It seems that when we are not surrendered to God these three parts (mind, will, and emotions) are most affected. I haven’t found exact theological backing yet to solidify this about these thoughts about soul, but when I do I will be sure to let you guys know. Nonetheless, we cannot talk about self-care without talking about the Sabbath.

Shabbat- is the Hebrew word for Sabbath and it means to come to an end, to cease, to stop, to pause.

Genesis 2:2  (ESV) And on the seventh day God finished his work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work that he had done.

Even God rested! And let me submit He didn’t rest because He needed too.  He neither sleeps nor slumbers (Ps 121:4). I believe He rested because He wanted to teach us something. He wanted to teach us the principal of the Sabbath and the importance of rest.The bible talks about the importance of entering into His rest again in Hebrews 4. We will not enter into God’s eternal rest if we don’t trust His promises. Many of us are stressed out and cannot rest because we simply don’t trust Him and we also struggle with pride. Let me be the first to admit that this is often my struggle. As an entrepreneur this is such a challenge.  I realize that there is no check coming my way unless I get up and produce. This is both liberating and terrifying at the same time. It is our human sin nature to believe that everything is in our own hands and under our own control. Yet time and time again, I have learned that I am not in total control. Life is so much easier when we truly realize this point and relinquish control to the One who cares for us. This doesn’t mean we sit on our butts and do nothing. This simply means that no matter what it looks like, “we gon be alright!” We have a Father who is our ultimate provider, He brings the opportunities, He opens the doors, and He also closes what needs to be closed because He sees what’s ahead and knows best. It’s refreshing to be able to rest in that truth.

What Does Self Care Look Like?

There are times we are able to take a nice vacation, have a spa day, or take ourselves shopping. But what if we aren’t able to do any of those things? It becomes important then that we establish a daily routine of Self Care.  I have established a routine of daily Self-Care using my three S’s:

·      Solitude

·      Soaking

·      Scripture.

Solitude- Take time to simply be alone.  Don’t take your phone or any other electronics with you. Focus on your breathing by taking deep breaths. Clear your mind by focusing on a particular scripture.

Soaking- Turn on worship music and just soak in His presence. Reflect on the words of the song and just sit in His presence.

Scripture- Take out your Bible and mediate on scripture. The Hebrew word of meditate is: Hagah. It simply means to mutter. Take time to mutter the scripture to yourself over and over again. This helps to get these words into your mind and heart.

When you begin to take the time to do this daily, or even a few times a week you will begin to see a shift in how your days are going. You best take care of yourself by going to the One who takes care of you!

Remember we cannot be all who God called us to be without taking care of ourselves.

Love you guys,



Jennifer Lucy Tyler

Do Good, Feel Good, Look Good